The Art of Edging
Sexually speaking edging refers to bringing yourself or a partner to the point just before orgasm, but then stopping or slowing down before the actual orgasm.
One basic edging technique is where you stimulate yourself externally just to the point of orgasm then pull back. Start again with a bit more aggressive external stimulation to the point of orgasm and pull back once more. Then insert a finger or toy combine that with external clitoral stimulation, relax your entire body completely and let yourself go over the top. The orgasm(s) to follow will be super intense.
Edging can be achieved with any sexual activity, but expert edgers agree that using your hand for stimulation gives the greatest control. One extra benefit of edging is that it requires very close attention be paid to your sexual response that means if you are doing this with a partner they have to be very tuned into your sexual response. This opens up a certain level of intimate and sexual understanding with each other.
Time is required for edging as the entire purpose is to delay, postpone and eventually prolong orgasm. So be sure to set some time aside for this activity.
Here are some tips on how to get started with Edging.
The best way to practice is on your own. Masturbate up until you are about to orgasm, but don’t. Repeat this a few times before letting yourself orgasm and pay close attention to how your body changes as you get closer to orgasm, and how you feel as you bring yourself up and then down again the second and third time.
Edging is most effective using your fingers or hands. If you’ve got good hand control and dexterity in your fingers it allows you to control the pressure and location of stimulation. Furthermore, you can adjust the speed of stimulation easily as well.
When edging with a partner, you need to realize that it is all about them. The sexual thrill for you is being the edger and the control you have over your partner. The lustful pleading you get to make them cum is very sexually stimulating and sometimes gratifying as well. To be successful you need to be 100% tuned into your partner’s (the edge) sexual response to your touch. This means paying close attention to communication, being open to feedback and being confident enough to take direction without taking offense.
Listen - the sounds of your partner breathing, shallow breaths sound different than deep breaths and learn the difference between a moan that signals impending orgasm and a moan of sexual frustration. Look - at your partner’s body. Skin color can change at different stages of arousal, goose bumps may appear when aroused and other surface changes. Look for changes in muscle tension and pay attention to what they’re doing with other body parts. Feel – You can feel a difference in temperature, body movement and muscle spasms.
There are many different ways to stimulate your partner. Vary the kind of touch from “light as a feather” to firm and controlling. Change the direction of stimulation from up and down to circles or to squeezing and stroking. As you become more proficient at edging you can try to change the stimulation more gradually so the edgee does not even realize a “stop”, instead they slowly ramp up and down without reaching climax until you are ready to allow it.
Bring your partner back from the brink of orgasm by switching up where you stimulate them. You can move from the pussy and clit to other body parts such as the nipples, inner thigh or any erogenous zone.
Your responsibility is to be in tune with your partner’s level of arousal, but you don’t have to do all the work. They can use sexual breathing techniques or squeeze their pelvic muscles to exert some control. Most importantly they can communicate with you by telling you when they are about to cum.
Edging isn’t just a fun way to bring something new into your sex play. Orgasms produced from edging are more intense and stronger. If you already orgasm regularly and are looking for a way to expand your orgasmic potential, edging can show you what your body is capable of experiencing. It is also powerful for the partner providing the stimulation as it can show you how much power to please he or she has for you.
Education might not sound like a very motivating factor, but in order to be a proficient edger, you need to pay close attention to your partners body. The process of learning the signs as when they are near orgasm or what they look and sound like as they are building to orgasm, and what they are like as they are coming down, is a process of becoming more sexually aware. This ability to connect will enhance almost any sexual experience with them.
I hope everyone has a great weekend, be safe, have fun and please feel free to contact me with any comments, questions or topics you would like discussed.